Life has been quieter ever since I found my HBD-Boy, that special somebody for whom I was searching. And it all happened so quickly after I started my blog!
When I started “The Life and Trials of an HBD Girl” back in August, I thought I would have endless fodder for blog articles based on my previous year of dating, especially with those dastardly liberal men. Fortunately for me my dating life has become much more serene and fulfilling. Albeit, less interesting for my blog readers.
Now, that I’m feeling a bit more stable in that area of my life, I’m revisiting my other goals. One of them pertaining to my career.
Although I hope to be a stay-at-home homeschooling mom in the future (next 2-5 years), I know that I now have some time to save up money for a home, family, wedding, travel and various other projects. In order to help me along that path I’m refocusing my efforts on my freelancing career.
For me freelancing is a means working wherever and whenever I want. My goal statement: To have a “freedom” career which uses my skills and interests as much as possible and will give me interesting intellectual challenges.
Over the past few weeks I’ve been developing my offerings and redefining my target audience in more detail so that I can better market my services to prospects. Quite a challenge to put myself in my prospect’s mindset.
In the past week, I was also able secure a spot at an conference. I was talking to the organizer of the event over the phone, discussing my background and current field — marketing my expertise to his conference audience. He ended up offering me a speaking slot for the event. Exciting!
However during the conversation we ended up talking about politics. He mentioned something about how even though he liked Obama’s social policies he didn’t like how he was performing as President. He said “Ron Paul would have done a better job…” but in the next breath he said, “But I do think it was the right time for a black President.”
I bit my tongue and said nothing. How many times have I heard guys and girls utter inanities of this sort. Too many. What does that statement mean really?
How do y’all handle these social/professional situations? I figure it’s better just to say nothing than get into any deep political or philosophical discussion.
If someone else brings up the topic (and thus they frame the conversation, which implies they’re the dominant one), I just smile and nod. Maybe I’ll make a very weak allusion to having a contrary opinion, but “the person” writing my blog wouldn’t appear.
If I start the conversation, sometimes it’s hard for me to stop. For example, last week I went on a rant about dysgenics, low-intelligence fecundity, and delayed fertility of high intelligence persons. I simply couldn’t help myself.
Agreed, it is difficult to control ones viewpoints when you are the one framing or directing the conversation. Many a times it’s easy to assume ppl are agreeing with you when they are just listening.
Tonight I was out with female coworkers. When they started bashing gunownership — making broad statements about how nobody ever needs to own firearms (besides police officers) — I decided to shut my mouth. I was outnumbered and with folks that I interact closely with on a daily basis.
My goal was to have a fun time with them all and strengthen our bonds. Surprisingly, it wasn’t too bad for me. I just looked away while they talked about the subject and waited till they switched to a new topic.
The older I get the more I realize that *I* can’t change people’s minds and it really isn’t worth the emotional or mental energy to do so.
In business, you have to keep your mouth shut. That’s just how it is. You cannot jeopardize your business just because others are stupid. Most people are…
With friends, I try to get them to take the next step, which usually is just to open their minds to the fact that others may have different views.
When with your group of friends, I would have instead just said something like — You might be surprised about how many people you know who disagree with that position. I am on the other side of the fence, actually. ;)
If they start to argue, just say ‘hey, i don’t want to argue; just wanted to let you know there are people like me with different views, and we’re not all crazy hicks…’